{"id":924,"date":"2009-07-03T21:36:05","date_gmt":"2009-07-04T05:36:05","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.katylee.com\/blog\/?p=924"},"modified":"2009-07-03T21:36:05","modified_gmt":"2009-07-04T05:36:05","slug":"what-friends-are-for","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/katylee.com\/blog\/2009\/07\/03\/what-friends-are-for\/","title":{"rendered":"What friends are for"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Last week at church, R gave me some feedback that I really appreciated. Without going into details, I asked him and C how I can improve. They gave me good advice that I will definitely act on. Thanks, R and C.<\/p>\n<p>We all have blindspots that need good friends to point them out to us. If you are at a certain level of friendship and trust with people, it is appropriate to tell one another how they can improve. I don&#8217;t mind if someone tells me how I can improve, provided he says it nicely and not critically.<\/p>\n<p>However, other than to my family, I am very hesitant in giving people feedback. &#8220;Who I am to tell them?&#8221;, &#8220;Maybe it&#8217;s my problem, not theirs&#8221;, &#8220;I should accept them and love them as they are&#8221;, &#8220;I shouldn&#8217;t give people unsolicited advice.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>I suppose there is a fine line between giving helpful feedback with love and being critical.<\/p>\n<p>What do you think?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Last week at church, R gave me some feedback that I really appreciated. Without going into details, I asked him and C how I can improve. They gave me good advice that I will definitely act on. Thanks, R and C. We all have blindspots that need good friends to point them out to us. [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[20],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-924","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-thoughts-on-life"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/katylee.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/924","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/katylee.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/katylee.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/katylee.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/katylee.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=924"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/katylee.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/924\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/katylee.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=924"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/katylee.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=924"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/katylee.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=924"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}